Helpful Hints

Hint #1 Listen and be supportive.

The student’s first year is typically a time of highs, discoveries and good times mixed with lows, mistakes and disappointments. Pressures are very real for students, and they can be eased with your support. Unfortunately, the urge to communicate is often felt only during a crisis, so parents may get only the bad news and learn little about the new friends, social triumphs and good grades. Just listen and, if asked, offer advice. Students want to know someone is there who will listen to them—an unbiased listener will make your student happy, which will make you happy in return. Meanwhile, encourage your student to get involved. Maintain an upbeat and cheerful response to help your student focus on the positive aspects of college.

Hint #2 Accept change.

Your student may feel the need to distance him or herself gradually from family members in order to make leaving easier. Don’t take it personally if your student is spending more time with friends and less time with you. Give your student space to grow.

Hint #3 Ask questions.

College students are seeking independence and have a tendency to resent interference with their newfound lifestyle. Even so, it is comforting for them to know someone is interested. Parental curiosity can be supportive. “I have a right to know” questions, ulterior motives and nagging should be avoided.

Hint #5 Encourage involvement.

It is especially important to encourage your student to get involved. Many learning experiences come from activities outside the classroom. Dominican University offers clubs and sports that will help develop your child’s character and passion.